Life is full of curveballs. New schools, new friends, and sometimes, new challenges. And if you’re a parent or carer of a kid or teen with incontinence, you know these changes can feel extra tricky.

But don’t worry—We’re here to help! From prep tips to confidence strategies, here’s how you can support your child and help boost their confidence, so that they’re ready to take on the world!

Talk Openly About Incontinence 

With leaks, first things first – we talk about it! With kindness and zero shame – because having a few ‘oopsie’ moments shouldn’t be a big deal! Kids and teens already ride a rollercoaster of emotions daily, so one thing they don’t need is to feel embarrassed about something that’s harder to control. Keep chats casual, open, and supportive, and remind them that our bodies can surprise us sometimes.  

Make School Feel Safe

School transitions come with new challenges. A little planning can make things way easier.

• Meet with school staff – Talk to teachers or support staff to make sure they are aware, and have everything they need to help your kiddo’s wee problems—like close bathroom access or a discreet place for supplies.
  
• Create a bathroom plan – Work with your child to figure out the best times and places to go, whether it’s between classes or during breaks.
  
  
• Pack a ‘just-in-case’ kit – A small bag with extra Nundies, wipes, and disposal bags can make all the difference.
  
  

💡Bonus Tip: Name it something fun like “Mission Survival Kit” so it doesn’t feel like a “just-in-case-I-have-an-accident” bag. Pop a little “You’ve got this!” note inside for bonus confidence.

Find the Right Products

When it comes to incontinence products, comfort is key! The right fit can mean the difference between a harder day at school, or a totally chill one full of smiles and laughs. Letting them be part of the decision-making process can help them feel more independent and in control. 

• Try a few styles – What works for one kid might not work for another. Our Nundies Youth Pants have a 100% money back guarantee, and while we’re confident your kiddo will love ‘em, we want to make sure you can try them risk-free.
  
  
• Stock up on the good stuff – Having a stash of your go-to products at home or at school is always handy. Our Never Run Out automated orders can help keep you stocked up, plus it’ll save you an extra 10% on the cost of your order. Now that’s a huge win!|
  
  
• Don’t forget about skincare – Keep, creams, breathable clothing layers and wipes nearby to stay comfy and rash-free.
  
  
  

Boost Their Confidence

Confidence can make your kid feel unstoppable! Helping kids and teens manage their incontinence on their own, can make them feel ready to tackle anything. 

• Practice at home – Go over changing routines where there’s no pressure. This will make sure they feel extra prepared if an “uh oh” moment arrives.
  
  
• Teach them discreet disposal methods – No one wants to feel awkward in the school bathroom or when sleeping over at a friend’s place. Show them how to tightly roll up used products and place them into a disposable bag, so that they’re ready to be tossed into the bin.
  
  
• Encourage them to ask for help – Practice ways of speaking up for their needs with teachers or friends. Roleplay simple scripts like “Hey Miss, can I go for a bathroom break?” or “Is it okay if I keep my bag with me in class?” to make it easier in real-life situations. A note to hand to a teacher works just as well. It’s still speaking up — just in their style.

💡Bonus Tip: Remind them that every person has their own obstacles to face and there’s nothing to be ashamed of.

Offer Mental & Emotional Support Too

Big feelings often come with leaks. They might worry about being teased, missing out on activities, or feeling different. Make sure they know they know they can trust in you to support them every step of the way.

• Normalise therapy – Talking to others who ‘get it’ can be really empowering, making your child feel heard. Support groups and chat circles can help too.
  
  
• Creative outlets  – Writing, art, or even music can help them process emotions. Encourage your child to find something that helps them to express their feelings in an enjoyable and comfortable way.
  
  
• Celebrate the small wins– It could be a dry night, speaking up at school, or trying something new that they may have been nervous about. Celebrate their wins no matter the size! Positive reinforcement and reward systems work wonders in keeping them motivated to achieve their next goal. 

Prepare for Big Life Changes

Moving to a new school or starting high school? Going on overnight stays with friends or moving house? These milestones are big ones, so a little prep early on, can make new adventures easier.

• Do a practice run – Visit the new school or venue ahead of time to scope out bathrooms and accessibility features.
  
  
• Talk to key people – A trusted teacher, a nurse, parent or even a coach can provide support.
  
  
• Have a Plan A, B and maybe C– If anxiety strikes your little one, knowing there’s backup plans can be super reassuring.

💡Bonus Tip: Involve them in problem-solving so they feel in control. “What would help YOU feel most comfortable?” is a great question to ask.

You Got This, and So Do They!

Supporting kids and teens with incontinence through life’s big changes is all about prep, communication, and a healthy dose of light-hearted humour. There will be bumps in the road, but with the right strategies and care, your child can navigate life changes with confidence.

Just a heads-up: This blog is for friendly info and support—it’s not medical advice. If you have concerns or further questions about your child or teen finding it difficult to cope with big changes, it’s always best to chat with a healthcare professional.